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| i am a bit upset at this because my baby is obviously doing better with cds. no redness and no dry patches on his skin. my dh just told me that once little man gets old enough to hang around with other toddlers, that he will be laughed at because of his big butt. i do not see that as a valad reason to put him back in disposables. and both he and my father say that the diaper looks "rediculous on him. disposables look better." yeah, my son looks different, but it is fine with me. my dh says that it is too much trouble having to go up sizes in clothes as well. sigh... i wish he would look at it from my perspective. i am sick of throwing away money on diapers every week. we were buying a case every week. sorry everyone, just getting this off my chest. i will be away this weekend so i will reply when i get back. |
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I'm sorry you're not getting support for CD use. The disposable manufacturers have so successfully advertised and marketed their product that it has become the norm, and sometimes it takes a bit to overcome those expectiations/perceptions.
Once you're no longer folding over the fronts of the OS, they will no longer look so big, and the clothes sizing is usually no longer an issue, either, as baby grows. Babies go through an amazing number of clothes in their first year, anyway, and after that it slows down. The second year is much better, and by the third year, man, some of those clothes can be in use for years, depending on cut and child, and aside from maybe the moment when you switch to cloth, there really isn't any difference in the rate at which baby outgrows things; he might just be in a size a little earlier and leave it a little earlier than in disposables, but the three months (or whatever) in that outfit is usually the same.
My boys have both been the only cloth-bottomed child in a group, and they certainly never, ever received any ridicule from the other toddlers. Not only have they not looked different, but even if they had, most other toddlers, until they are getting to the age where they would be potty-trained anyway, aren't even close to being aware about things like that. They really don't even interact when they play--they play "near" each other rather than "with" each other when they are that young.
One thing that I am continually amazed at with my boys, 4 and 2, is that even when they notice differences and ask about them, once I explain why that person has a stick or that person is bald, hey, it's all good and they move on. They are amazingly accepting of people in whatever form. I truly don't believe it's until a bit older that kids acquire their cruelty. Even then, as a teacher, I saw so much acceptance of kids, esp. with learning disabilities, that I was amazed. I certainly can't deny that kids can be horrid to each other, but you have at least several years yet, well beyond diapers, before you have to worry about that among his peers. |
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Part of this is a fairly normal adjustement period. For most people used to the look of disposables then yes, cloth can look a little silly. But then you get used to the look and even think it's rather cute. I remember that when my babies used to wear disposables the odd time that that was when I thought they looked silly, like they'd suddenly lost their bum. It's all about what you're used to so they'll eventually come around or at least stop noticing/caring.
I also have to agree with aavt on the teasing aspect. Toddlers and even preschoolers just don't tease each other the way that school aged children do. They have very limited social skills at that age, and really teasing is a form of social interaction and a higher social skill (not a desireable one of course, but still something that a child would only acquire later on). The limited social skills also means that most kids wouldn't even be aware of being teased. They don't care about fitting in or having 'friends' at that age (like aavt said, they play next to each other, not with each other at that age) so they're not seeking approval the way an older child often is. Not to mention that most have rather limited language skills, even if they wanted to tease each other most 2-3 year olds just wouldn't be able to.
Hold strong to what you believe in. For now they may even feel they're helping you, by giving you 'permission' to stop doing something they may perceive as being more difficult for you. It often takes longer for hubbies to see cloth in a very positive light. My own dh behaved in much the same way at first, refusing to change poopy cloth dipes etc... A couple years ago I caught him singing the praises of cloth to a fellow father-to-be who's wife was interested in cloth! They'll come around or at least eventually understand that this is something that's important to you and stop hassling you about it.
Karen. |
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| My dh has become thankful of the extra padding as our LO would often fall on his bum when he was learning to walk! Hopefully they will come around soon! |
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| I'm sorry you are not getting the support. My husband was the one who was the push for me. He said one day, "You know that stuff in diapers is used as a fire retardant". That did it for me as we have already talked about cloth many times over. You have to be both on board. As others have said toddlers are not going to tease your child. They won't even care. I hope that these words help. |
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| thanks to all for the encouraging words. when we got to my MIL's house that evening, john had a poopy diaper. i changed it and my dad comments that john had a blowout because the poop was on the edges almost out of the diaper. and i said, no daddy, it is only a blow out if it comes completely out of the diaper, which it did not. my father was commenting on how groce it was because i was changing the baby on a couch and my dad was holding the baby's legs up as i took the dipe away and cleaned him. my lo also got his feet in the poop, which he did with disposables anyway. my dh commented this weekend that if john was in disposables i would not have a hard time with poop. and i said, yes, i deal with the poop correctly with cloth. that shut him up. we bought some clothes for little man yesterday and i showed them to my father when he picked us up about an hour ago. i asked if the diaper bulge was as prominant and he said no and the LO looks cute. also, we fed the little one squash, carrots, and gave him some fresh watermellon juice. lets just say, when i went to rince the dipe, the whole back of the dipe was covered in, according to my MIL, a greenish colored poop. so when i went to put it in the bag that my MIL had put out for me to put the dirties in, my dh actualy took the dipe and took some laundry detergent, and finished rincing it for me, using the detergent to get out the green poop. he said that he thought he would never do that again. needless to say, i was pretty touched by his gesture. sorry for the long poop story lol. |
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| Hey, my husband wasn't fully on board with the cloth diapering at first. We used disposable fully with our first and wasn't until our second was 7 or 8 months old that i finally was convinced to switch. He made me borrow some from a friend for awhile because he was convinced i wouldn't stick with it and it would have been a waste of money..i agreed because it was a good idea but you could tell he was always pessimistic about cloth diapering for quite awhile telling me it wasn't worth it. One day i finally addressed the issue with him and showed him how often i buy disposables now (since he isn't with me for groceries he couldn't see the difference....since then he's been much more open to cloth and not so against it..i think he's also starting to notice so many of his friends kids are being cloth diapered too!! You really do get used to the big bum!! we both had a really hard time with that at first and i even made a ton of diapers that were much more fitted to avoid it but now it doesn't bother me at all! |
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| hi there. i am much happier now because my son's pediatrician noticed the switch to cloth and she fully agrees because my son's skin is much healthier now. before we went in to see her last night, a lady whom i was sitting next to noticed his cloth swattled butt and said to me, "those diapers are wonderful aren't they? i use wamies myself. it is so refreshing to know that there are more people who like the idea, and cloth diaper their kids themselves. my dh still does not like it, i found out, soley because of the big butt. "i do not like my son looking like that. i like thin looks," he said to me. he also does not like washing dipes or scrubbing, but again, i reminded him that i take care of all the messy work involved. i am used to the cd look now and hate the superthin look of disposable. i think it makes our son look practically like he is wearing nothing. my twin sister's fiance made the effectionant comment last night that it looks as if my son is sitting in a cloud. i actually liked that. |
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| Well, I hope your DH was there in the doctor's office to hear the comment! By the way, remember that as your little one grows older, the diapers will look less bulky. Nowadays, I can't really see the difference in looks in my son whether he's wearing his usual MEOS or disposables (which he wore when we were traveling). I could tell because he loses his pants with the sposies (we had to use a belt), but when you look at him next to other kids his age (2), there really isn't much of a difference, even compared to our friends' daughter who's potty trained and wearing undies. Are you still folding down the top of the diaper? If you are, when you stop it will make a huge difference. |
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| oh yes. he was in the doctor's office with me when she made that comment that she approves of the switch. he still does not like it but oh well. i am not folding down the top. i did it for the first few days and find that it still fits correctly with the top unfolded. he weighs 16 pounds and 13 ounces now. not actually really sure why the top needs to be folded down in the first place. it is the all around bulkiness that my dh does not like. u know how in disposables, the back and hips of the diaper are thin? that is the look that my dh likes. personally, i would rather have my son look bulky and have healthy skin full of natural oils and moisture, than have a trim look and his skin be extremely dried out and scaly like it was when he was wearing disposables. of coarse, my dh did not notice the driness because he never paid attention to fine detail. he would only get concerned if he saw redness. but of coarse, having somewhat full use of both eyes does not give the whole picture. |
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